Fairfax blogger Samantha Brett reckons that men like to feel big and clever in a relationship:
Men don’t like smarter women … say what!?.
And are men really so afraid of being challenged by a smart woman that they’d ditch her for someone with less of a brain who doesn’t challenge them and simply goes with the flow?
No idea. But economist Ray Fisman concurs, writing in Slate magazine about his observations when he analysed a bunch of speed dating events at a bar near Columbia University over a period of two years.
“Men avoided women whom they perceived to be smarter than themselves,” he said. “The same held true for measures of career ambition – a woman could be ambitious, just not more ambitious than the man considering her for a date.”
Why? “We males are a gender of fragile egos in search of a pretty face and are threatened by brains or success that exceeds our own.”
… Said one twentysomething: “Yes, I want to date the bar tender, the student or the girl who is a secretary. I can be the man in the relationship and she appreciates everything I do for her. It’s simply much easier. I don’t have to work as hard.”
… So what does it say about a man who prefers a handbag to a partner or an equal? A lot. But if Stanger’s theory is correct, smart women had better hide their degrees and skip the political chat for more superficial, light conversations. At least if they want to get married any time soon.
Am I the only one who finds dumb, unambitious women really boring to date? There’s something very unstimulating about someone who just wants to please you and do things that you want.
Maybe I’ll put a message out: If there are any women out there who don’t want to be a handbag and do want that political chat, some of us out there are ok with that. I’ll leave the bartenders and secretaries for the other guys.